Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life



Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life From One Of The Nation S Preeminent Experts On Women And Emotion, A Breakthrough New Book About How To Stop Negative Thinking And Becomeproductive It S No Surprise That Our Fast Paced, Overly Self Analytical Culture Is Pushing Many People Especially Women To Spend Countless Hours Thinking About Negative Ideas, Feelings, And Experiences Renowned Psychologist Dr Susa

  • Hardcover
  • 288 pages
  • Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life
  • Susan Nolen-Hoeksema
  • English
  • 14 September 2018
  • 0805070184

About the Author: Susan Nolen-Hoeksema

Dr Susan Nolen Hoeksema was born on May 22, 1959, in Springfield, Ill., to John and Catherine Nolen Her father ran a construction business, where her mother was the office manager Susan was the eldest of three children.Susan Nolen Hoeksema, psychologist and writer, helped explain why women are twice as prone to depression as men and why such low moods can be so hard to shake Dr Nolen Hoeksema, a professor at Yale University, began studying depression in the 1980s.She entered Illinois State University before transferring to Yale She graduated summa cum laude in 1982 with a degree in psychology After earning a Ph.D in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, she joined the faculty at Stanford She later moved to the University of Michigan, before returning to Yale in 2004.Along the way she published scores of studies and a popular textbook In 2003 she became the editor of the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, an influential journal.Her studies, first in children and later in adults, exposed one of the most deceptively upsetting of these patterns rumination, the natural instinct to dwell on the sources of problems rather than their possible solutions Women wereprone to ruminate than men, the studies found, and in a landmark 1987 paper she argued that this difference accounted for the two to one ratio of depressed women to depressed men.She later linked rumination to a variety of mood and behavior problems, including anxiety, eating disorders and substance abuse.Dr Nolen Hoeksema wrote several books about her research for general readers, including Women Who Think Too Much How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life These books described why rumination could be so corrosive it is deeply distracting it tends to highlight negative memories and how such thoughts could be alleviated.


10 thoughts on “Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life

  1. says:

    One thing annoyed me greatly Whenever the author is introducing a woman in one of her examples, she always describes them as a plucky blonde with sparkling blue eyes I couldn t help but be distracted by how tacky and stereotypical this comes off It really turned me off to the book.

  2. says:

    I don t know why it is titled Women who think too much I think the book is relevant to both men and women I am really glad to have read this book. it doesn t really answer all questions, but it gives good advises to beat overthinking..I am sure, I shall read it again some time soon.The best thing about it is mainly the case studies, and life scenarios It makes ideas very clear, as if I am living each situation exactly Most probably the reactions mentioned would be exactly my reaction if I don t know why it is titled Women who think too much I think the book is relevant to both men and women I am really glad to have read this book. it doesn t really answer all questions, but it gives good advises to beat overthinking..I am sure, I shall read it again some time soon.The best thing about it is mainly the case studies, and life scenarios It makes ideas very clear, as if I am living each situation exactly Most probably the reactions mentioned would be exactly my reaction if I am in that place

  3. says:

    Really good book I read it in the library cuz it caught my eye because lately I have been over thinking my relationship with my bf And it was very helpful Made me feel better and I actually was taking a walk to try and clear my mind and ended up at the bookstore So what she says about doing something for urself helps u not over think so much is so true Not being so clingy giving ur partner space and not always trying to fix ur relationship or over analyzing every little thing he does I rec Really good book I read it in the library cuz it caught my eye because lately I have been over thinking my relationship with my bf And it was very helpful Made me feel better and I actually was taking a walk to try and clear my mind and ended up at the bookstore So what she says about doing something for urself helps u not over think so much is so true Not being so clingy giving ur partner space and not always trying to fix ur relationship or over analyzing every little thing he does I recommend this book to anyone who is overt honking and over analyzing their relationships

  4. says:

    I picked this mostly as a procrastination short nonfiction read and didn t expect to find it this interesting I am pretty prone to overthinking so I could relate to many of the examples and some of the strategies I already use and looking forward to havingto fall back on It s probably not a life changing book for me, but it was informative and really good to listen to.

  5. says:

    This book was very negative and repetitive The author provided plenty of negative thinking anecdotes from people who think too much That was 99% of the book She spent very little time giving you actual advice about what to do if you are thinking a lot This book should have been called, Examples of negative thinking and I won t tell you how to fix it This book made me feel worse A lot of her examples were horrible situations that happened to people Things that us humans don t want to d This book was very negative and repetitive The author provided plenty of negative thinking anecdotes from people who think too much That was 99% of the book She spent very little time giving you actual advice about what to do if you are thinking a lot This book should have been called, Examples of negative thinking and I won t tell you how to fix it This book made me feel worse A lot of her examples were horrible situations that happened to people Things that us humans don t want to dwell on Her watery advice was pretty much along the lines of if you find yourself thinking negatively, just stop it How is this any different than, Pick yourself off your bootstraps Not a useful or enlightening book It sent me into further negative thinking I don t understand why this book has high reviews I haven t read a book this bad in a long time No wonder it was 5 in some discount store

  6. says:

    Helpful in understanding whether you think too much and how to cope with that Most women I know tend to have this issue and I think it s important to recognize and acknowledge the problem, while trying to keep it under control.

  7. says:

    Some of the case studies in the book really annoyed me as another reviewer said, is it necessary for us to know the eye and hair color of all of the women discussed No.That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time instead I am making them worse Obviously not all of her Some of the case studies in the book really annoyed me as another reviewer said, is it necessary for us to know the eye and hair color of all of the women discussed No.That said, I did appreciate the straightforward manner that Nolen Hoeksema approaches the over thinking problem and practical tips for managing it As a chronic ruminator, it was helpful to me to realize that I am not solving problems by thinking about them all the time instead I am making them worse Obviously not all of her tips for managing negative thoughts will work for everyone but I think some deserve attention and implementation Overall, I think this book is a worthy read if you have a tendency to over think

  8. says:

    In the past, I ve been told that I think too much and this was never meant as a compliment, so I resisted this book based on the title It was recommended in another book I d read, so I checked it out of the library The sort of thinking the author is writing about here isn t deep thinking about a topic or even worrying She s talking about being stuck in a negative thought habit about things that have happened which leads to sadness, anxiety, and depression I didof a heavy skim than a wo In the past, I ve been told that I think too much and this was never meant as a compliment, so I resisted this book based on the title It was recommended in another book I d read, so I checked it out of the library The sort of thinking the author is writing about here isn t deep thinking about a topic or even worrying She s talking about being stuck in a negative thought habit about things that have happened which leads to sadness, anxiety, and depression I didof a heavy skim than a word by word reading hence not giving a star rating , but I did write down several long passages to reflect upon.Near the end of the book, Nolen Hoeksema makes the case for the need for quiet alone time to reconnect with ourselves and sort out our own values This isn t just good for us as individuals or for our relationships, but such practice has far reaching implications She writes, We cannot, as a society, choose leaders who represent our best values if we do not, as individuals, spend the necessary quiet time discovering and refining those values Otherwise, we end up either letting other people make choices for us or going with the candidate who has the best ad campaign We have an obligation not only to ourselves but to current and future generations to connect with our values and make choices as a citizen that reflect these values Again, this takes time and turning down the volume I checked the publication date after reading that paragraph It was 2003

  9. says:

    I was given this book to borrow and read because it just simply transformed my best friend s life My life, however, was not erratically changed like I was told it would be Though, it definitely impacted me on a level that made me grateful to have read it at all.Regardless of the altering effects it may have had on me, it took me FOREVER to finish I understand the layout of the book and why it was done the way it was, but because of this I literally fell asleep reading this a few times.Another I was given this book to borrow and read because it just simply transformed my best friend s life My life, however, was not erratically changed like I was told it would be Though, it definitely impacted me on a level that made me grateful to have read it at all.Regardless of the altering effects it may have had on me, it took me FOREVER to finish I understand the layout of the book and why it was done the way it was, but because of this I literally fell asleep reading this a few times.Another detrimental flaw was the real life stories that were implemented throughout the whole book There was a few I liked and felt were relate able, but once a sentence started with Take Jill for example, I could not help, but roll my eyes and try to prepare myself for an unrealistic circumstance The stories were like something you would have read in school and to then be tested on.With the negativity laid out, I am a severe over thinker I go crazy prattling on in my mind about something simple and insignificant This overthinking could have started with a conversation I had that I felt went negatively and explode to why I have no friends This is dramatic of course, but has unfortunately happened It was nice to hear this was normal andcommon in women I know if I tell my boyfriend or father about something I am worried about they think I m crazy and weird for worrying about something so trivial.Instead of just being told to let it go, this teaches you ways to start letting the simple and often silly things go so they don t drive you to madness in the middle of the night I don t think the steps will be easy to follow, but a potential coping mechanism to alleviate some of the everyday stress is a blessing

  10. says:

    Probably THE most relatable book I ve ever read I will probably read it over and over One of those books that makes you say So it s not just me My brain literally never stops In fact I routinely have two lines of thought at any given time Not to mention any kind of visual thoughts I might be having It can be exhausting So when something bad is happening or all the bad things are happening all at once like lately I am definitely one to OVERTHINK And probably to over think about th Probably THE most relatable book I ve ever read I will probably read it over and over One of those books that makes you say So it s not just me My brain literally never stops In fact I routinely have two lines of thought at any given time Not to mention any kind of visual thoughts I might be having It can be exhausting So when something bad is happening or all the bad things are happening all at once like lately I am definitely one to OVERTHINK And probably to over think about the 2 3 absolute WORST possible outcomes all at once And overthink about overthinking Oh joy Aren t you happy you aren t in my head Well Susan Nolen Hoeksma Ph.D is She gets me We are soul sisters Thank God I am not the only one And thank God she gives some super practical advice on how to just STOP Without just telling me to get over it because those 3 words have me overthinking for days every time Lol am I laughing or crying Laughing Oh good It s working then.If your brain never stops if you catastrophize if your anxieties have anxieties READ THIS BOOK

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