My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young

My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side



10 thoughts on “My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young

  1. Sarah Sarah says:

    I only read maybe the first third or so The concept of the book appealed to me when I first heard about it, but I couldn t relate Too much I can t wear designer jeans any I m too tired to go out drinking like I used to I suppose if I used to do those things, I d lament their lossshrug To me, the book didn t read so much as an observation of transitions between stages of life which is what I was hoping for as it did just a series of whines about how, boo hoo, the author is no I only read maybe the first third or so The concept of the book appealed to me when I first heard about it, but I couldn t relate Too much I can t wear designer jeans any I m too tired to go out drinking like I used to I suppose if I used to do those things, I d lament their lossshrug To me, the book didn t read so much as an observation of transitions between stages of life which is what I was hoping for as it did just a series of whines about how, boo hoo, the author is now 40 and has wrinkles


  2. Jamie Jamie says:

    Incredibly disappointing The idea of exploring the transitional stage of life neither young and hot, nor old enough to wear Sensible Shoes and Mom jeans, is intriguing Unfortunately, this is one long, whiny collection of shallow observations and needless repetition that can be summed up easily It bruises the ego to realize that we are no longer young beauties First of all, the author seems shocked beyond belief that she does indeed look older, and feel older too, as a 40 something mother O Incredibly disappointing The idea of exploring the transitional stage of life neither young and hot, nor old enough to wear Sensible Shoes and Mom jeans, is intriguing Unfortunately, this is one long, whiny collection of shallow observations and needless repetition that can be summed up easily It bruises the ego to realize that we are no longer young beauties First of all, the author seems shocked beyond belief that she does indeed look older, and feel older too, as a 40 something mother Okay Do you not know any women over 40 How did this not occur to you before now I stopped reading when she emphasized that a Formerly woman cannot be friends with someone who doesn t like her significant other, or genuinely like your kids Really I guess your time isn t well spent with someone who simply likes you for who you are Does she apply the same standard to herself Of course not, because she is just too busy as a working mother to have time for anyone, except the one friend whose husband doesn t like her husband I guess that s okay.The vanity and self importance she clearly feels get old really quickly Simply put, this would be a good 3 page magazine article There is not enough here for a book, nor is this woman entertaining enough to justify one


  3. Allison Allison says:

    I tried and tried to feel sympathy for her but I found myself screaming Get over yourself She s 40 years old and all sorts of disgruntled about it I m 50 and I have two children and I still feel like I m hot I don t know what her problem is Well, I do know she s concocted this problem so she could sell books So glad I got it from the library.


  4. Patti K Patti K says:

    My review is mixed I liked the concept women in this tween stage of adulthood can certainly benefit from having a kindred spirit help them feel like they are not alone On that note, I thought she made some interesting points and observations If I were only judging based on the concept, I d give it 5 stars.When I read a book, however, I m not just judging it on concept, I m judging on execution, too That s where I felt like this lacked Granted, I understand that there is a difficult bala My review is mixed I liked the concept women in this tween stage of adulthood can certainly benefit from having a kindred spirit help them feel like they are not alone On that note, I thought she made some interesting points and observations If I were only judging based on the concept, I d give it 5 stars.When I read a book, however, I m not just judging it on concept, I m judging on execution, too That s where I felt like this lacked Granted, I understand that there is a difficult balance to strike with a book that stems from a blog To avoid alienating the core audience the blog fans the writing style can t take a big departure from the blog Unfortunately, her blog is written in a very cavalier style It s not that I don t like her style I do, really But I think reading a blog is different than reading a book About 1 3 through the book, I thought, Hmmm, not the best style to read in book format and really only kept reading because I liked what she had to say It s not a good pitch point.If you can stand to read her blog style for long periods, by all means, read this book If you pick it up in the book store and like it, then buy it Because you ll probably want to digest it in chapter size segments meaning, read a chapter, go do something else , and borrowing it from the library makes thatdifficult.Despite being a very different person than the author inways than you can count, I still felt like what she had to say was interesting and helpful This was a lotstraightforward than Eat, Pray, Love, but I think there is a similar message, about self acceptance The biggest difference is that Stephanie Dolgoff doesn t imply that you have to go through some life altering journey in order to get to the same place But I think they both say the same thing just wait, whatever your journey to get there, self acceptance will come if you let it happen I guess I should feel lucky that it happened a lot earlier in life for me, because, apparently, that s not really the norm Then again, when have I ever fit into normal


  5. Jam84 Jam84 says:

    The beauty of Dolgoff s book is that while it speaks directly to the formerly demographic, its message applies and appeals to people of all ages trying to navigate the murky path between one clearly defined phase of life and the next As someone in her mid twenties, I continuously feel like a tween of sorts as well no longer the fresh faced recent college grad, but not quite the settled and satisfied adult I hope I ll someday be Not only could I relate to this aspect of the My Formerly Ho The beauty of Dolgoff s book is that while it speaks directly to the formerly demographic, its message applies and appeals to people of all ages trying to navigate the murky path between one clearly defined phase of life and the next As someone in her mid twenties, I continuously feel like a tween of sorts as well no longer the fresh faced recent college grad, but not quite the settled and satisfied adult I hope I ll someday be Not only could I relate to this aspect of the My Formerly Hot Life, but I was also heartened by Dolgoff s assurances that life is so muchsatisfying on the other side of young In a youth obsessed culture that leads one to believe that life ends at the age of 35, My Formerly Hot Life highlights the upsides of aging, while still having a laugh or 10 at the downsides


  6. Susan Susan says:

    I loved this book.I totally related to it.I would recommend this book.I have already told my friends about it.I was laughing the whole time I read it.It makes you laugh at the reality that you are no longer young but you are not alone and to see the humor in it makes it a whole lot better.This is the perfect book for someone who is going through the change.Life is what we make it and how we look at it.


  7. Beth Kelly Beth Kelly says:

    Dolgoff is such an insightful, witty writer Her path may be different from mine and, man, I wish I d lived some of that New York life , but so what The issues resonate nonetheless for this 44 year old I hear they re making this into a TV series and will personally look forward to checking that and future writings out Any woman who can mock herself and wave her bat wings with abandon deserves a second look She seems like she d be a fun girlfriend and mom.


  8. Amy Amy says:

    This book is fan freakin tastic I know now what I am A formerly This is a great read for anyone 36 44 years old I laughed out loud while reading it Read this book


  9. Danielle Danielle says:

    I m only finishing it b c I m not a quitter. but uh redundant drivel update I lied I can t finish this So many other better things to do and read.


  10. Traci Traci says:

    OK, full disclosure I have never thought of myself as hot Cute, maybe even kind of pretty at times, but the word hot has never been used by myself when describing my own person So what s a not now not ever hot lady like myself doing with a book like this Laughing my bleeping butt off, that s what The territory here feels oh so familiar, as I am now in my early 40s I totally understand where Dolgoff is coming from and feel her pain at realizing that I no longer fit in the 25 35 age OK, full disclosure I have never thought of myself as hot Cute, maybe even kind of pretty at times, but the word hot has never been used by myself when describing my own person So what s a not now not ever hot lady like myself doing with a book like this Laughing my bleeping butt off, that s what The territory here feels oh so familiar, as I am now in my early 40s I totally understand where Dolgoff is coming from and feel her pain at realizing that I no longer fit in the 25 35 age category on most questionnaires Sad but true I m one of those middle aged women who certainly don t feel middle aged The only section I didn t relate too very well was the one about parenting, but that s because my husband and I are childless by choice The rest of it, though, could have been written by yours truly at times For example, I love her take on all the new gadgets on the market Like myself, she uses some of them, but isn t what you would call a tech geek , and for good reason She explains I m not fearful or dismissive of technology, even if I don t see it as the extension of self that younger people often do The problem is, I am barely able to find the time and the presence of mind to learn what I need to know to make the technology I already have do the minimal things I ask it to do, let alone explore the next generation of gizmo and all of its many features EXACTLY I finally broke down and bought a computer for home use, and yes, I have now had a cell phone for about 18 months, but I still don t fully embrace either one The computer is basic and has what I need and a lot that I don t the phone is a pay as you go not so smartphone that allows me to call my friends and send text messages I think it would let me access the Internet if I could would take the time to figure it out, but honestly, I don t care I don t need it to take pictures, compare prices on goods, or any of the other multitude of things that others use their fancy phones to do In fact, at one point before obtaining this model, I figured if I ever did buy one, it would be a Jitterbug model, the one designed for older folks The other topic she covers at length is also one I relate to quite well, the issue of body image She talks about TBMFU, also known as The Big Metabolic F ck You, the sad fact that your metabolism at some point will turn on you like a rabid dog and cause you to gain weight in places you didn t even know it was possible to gain weight And while it is frustrating to realize you can no longer eat the whole pint of Ben Jerry s without seeing it on your saddlebags post haste, you are also at that age where you realize there are bigger concerns in your life than the size of your thighs She talks here about hearing a comment at a party made about still stick thin formerly women the commenter says that they are very restrictive in their calorie intake Dolgoff later says It takes effort to not eat when you re hungry, to constantly be figuring what you can and cannot put in your mouth based on whether or not you think it ll make you fat or what you may or may not want to eat later Doing so takes up buckets of mental energy, which can be in short supply when you re already overextended, stressed out and multitasking I can attest to this myself no, I ve never been one to be severely restrictive with my food, but taking the time to be on a diet and think about food all the time is exhausting I d rather just try to cut back on all my portion sizes and eat what I want, maybe take an extra walk around the block, than do the diet thing And I know I haveimportant things to focus on in my life than my waist size or the number on the bathroom scale If you re nearing your 40s, are firmly in them, or have left them behind in the dust, I highly recommend this book It s so nice to know that there are others feeling this same way, and that we can think of ourselves as smarter, if not hotter


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My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young ❰Reading❯ ➾ My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young Author Stephanie Dolgoff – Polishdarling.co.uk When men stop making lecherous catcalls and Spanx get comfortable in your lingerie drawer, when marketers target you for Activia instead of premium denim, when you have to start wearing makeup to get When men stop making lecherous catcalls and Hot Life: ePUB ☆ Spanx get comfortable in your lingerie drawer, when marketers target you for Activia instead ofpremium denim, My Formerly PDF/EPUB ² when you have to start wearing makeup to get that I m not wearing any makeup glow and are ma amed outside the Deep Formerly Hot Life: MOBI ò South, it may dawn on you that somehow you have crossed an invisible line You are not the young, relevant, in the mix woman you used to be But neither are you old, or even what you think of as middle aged You are no longer what you were, but not quite sure what you are Stephanie Dolgoff calls this stage of a woman s life Formerly, the state of mind and body she herself is in now Her roaring twenties are behind her, but she s not in hot flash territory, either My Formerly Hot Life,showcasing Dolgoff s wacky and wise observations about this little discussed flux time, demonstrates that becoming a Formerly is intensely poignant if you re paying attention, and hilarious even if you re not From fashion to friendship, beauty to body image, married sex to single searching, mothering to careering or both , Dolgoff reveals the upside to not being forevereven as you watch the things you once thought were so essential to a happy life go the way of the cassette tape You may be formerly thin, formerly cool, formerly seemingly carefree, formerly cutting edge, but in reading My Formerly Hot Life you are reminded that you are finally comfortable in your skin formerly obsessed with your weight , finally following your instincts formerly ruled by the opinions of others , and finally happy with where you are formerly focused on the guy or job you thought would take you where you thought you should be While you may no longer be as close to the media machine generated idea of fabulous, you can do many, many things fabulouslyWildly entertaining and inspiring, My Formerly Hot Lifeproves that once you let yourself laugh about that which is passing, life is richer, fun, and satisfying Despite what you re led to believe, growing older most certainly means growing better.


10 thoughts on “My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young

  1. Sarah Sarah says:

    I only read maybe the first third or so The concept of the book appealed to me when I first heard about it, but I couldn t relate Too much I can t wear designer jeans any I m too tired to go out drinking like I used to I suppose if I used to do those things, I d lament their lossshrug To me, the book didn t read so much as an observation of transitions between stages of life which is what I was hoping for as it did just a series of whines about how, boo hoo, the author is no I only read maybe the first third or so The concept of the book appealed to me when I first heard about it, but I couldn t relate Too much I can t wear designer jeans any I m too tired to go out drinking like I used to I suppose if I used to do those things, I d lament their lossshrug To me, the book didn t read so much as an observation of transitions between stages of life which is what I was hoping for as it did just a series of whines about how, boo hoo, the author is now 40 and has wrinkles


  2. Jamie Jamie says:

    Incredibly disappointing The idea of exploring the transitional stage of life neither young and hot, nor old enough to wear Sensible Shoes and Mom jeans, is intriguing Unfortunately, this is one long, whiny collection of shallow observations and needless repetition that can be summed up easily It bruises the ego to realize that we are no longer young beauties First of all, the author seems shocked beyond belief that she does indeed look older, and feel older too, as a 40 something mother O Incredibly disappointing The idea of exploring the transitional stage of life neither young and hot, nor old enough to wear Sensible Shoes and Mom jeans, is intriguing Unfortunately, this is one long, whiny collection of shallow observations and needless repetition that can be summed up easily It bruises the ego to realize that we are no longer young beauties First of all, the author seems shocked beyond belief that she does indeed look older, and feel older too, as a 40 something mother Okay Do you not know any women over 40 How did this not occur to you before now I stopped reading when she emphasized that a Formerly woman cannot be friends with someone who doesn t like her significant other, or genuinely like your kids Really I guess your time isn t well spent with someone who simply likes you for who you are Does she apply the same standard to herself Of course not, because she is just too busy as a working mother to have time for anyone, except the one friend whose husband doesn t like her husband I guess that s okay.The vanity and self importance she clearly feels get old really quickly Simply put, this would be a good 3 page magazine article There is not enough here for a book, nor is this woman entertaining enough to justify one


  3. Allison Allison says:

    I tried and tried to feel sympathy for her but I found myself screaming Get over yourself She s 40 years old and all sorts of disgruntled about it I m 50 and I have two children and I still feel like I m hot I don t know what her problem is Well, I do know she s concocted this problem so she could sell books So glad I got it from the library.


  4. Patti K Patti K says:

    My review is mixed I liked the concept women in this tween stage of adulthood can certainly benefit from having a kindred spirit help them feel like they are not alone On that note, I thought she made some interesting points and observations If I were only judging based on the concept, I d give it 5 stars.When I read a book, however, I m not just judging it on concept, I m judging on execution, too That s where I felt like this lacked Granted, I understand that there is a difficult bala My review is mixed I liked the concept women in this tween stage of adulthood can certainly benefit from having a kindred spirit help them feel like they are not alone On that note, I thought she made some interesting points and observations If I were only judging based on the concept, I d give it 5 stars.When I read a book, however, I m not just judging it on concept, I m judging on execution, too That s where I felt like this lacked Granted, I understand that there is a difficult balance to strike with a book that stems from a blog To avoid alienating the core audience the blog fans the writing style can t take a big departure from the blog Unfortunately, her blog is written in a very cavalier style It s not that I don t like her style I do, really But I think reading a blog is different than reading a book About 1 3 through the book, I thought, Hmmm, not the best style to read in book format and really only kept reading because I liked what she had to say It s not a good pitch point.If you can stand to read her blog style for long periods, by all means, read this book If you pick it up in the book store and like it, then buy it Because you ll probably want to digest it in chapter size segments meaning, read a chapter, go do something else , and borrowing it from the library makes thatdifficult.Despite being a very different person than the author inways than you can count, I still felt like what she had to say was interesting and helpful This was a lotstraightforward than Eat, Pray, Love, but I think there is a similar message, about self acceptance The biggest difference is that Stephanie Dolgoff doesn t imply that you have to go through some life altering journey in order to get to the same place But I think they both say the same thing just wait, whatever your journey to get there, self acceptance will come if you let it happen I guess I should feel lucky that it happened a lot earlier in life for me, because, apparently, that s not really the norm Then again, when have I ever fit into normal


  5. Jam84 Jam84 says:

    The beauty of Dolgoff s book is that while it speaks directly to the formerly demographic, its message applies and appeals to people of all ages trying to navigate the murky path between one clearly defined phase of life and the next As someone in her mid twenties, I continuously feel like a tween of sorts as well no longer the fresh faced recent college grad, but not quite the settled and satisfied adult I hope I ll someday be Not only could I relate to this aspect of the My Formerly Ho The beauty of Dolgoff s book is that while it speaks directly to the formerly demographic, its message applies and appeals to people of all ages trying to navigate the murky path between one clearly defined phase of life and the next As someone in her mid twenties, I continuously feel like a tween of sorts as well no longer the fresh faced recent college grad, but not quite the settled and satisfied adult I hope I ll someday be Not only could I relate to this aspect of the My Formerly Hot Life, but I was also heartened by Dolgoff s assurances that life is so muchsatisfying on the other side of young In a youth obsessed culture that leads one to believe that life ends at the age of 35, My Formerly Hot Life highlights the upsides of aging, while still having a laugh or 10 at the downsides


  6. Susan Susan says:

    I loved this book.I totally related to it.I would recommend this book.I have already told my friends about it.I was laughing the whole time I read it.It makes you laugh at the reality that you are no longer young but you are not alone and to see the humor in it makes it a whole lot better.This is the perfect book for someone who is going through the change.Life is what we make it and how we look at it.


  7. Beth Kelly Beth Kelly says:

    Dolgoff is such an insightful, witty writer Her path may be different from mine and, man, I wish I d lived some of that New York life , but so what The issues resonate nonetheless for this 44 year old I hear they re making this into a TV series and will personally look forward to checking that and future writings out Any woman who can mock herself and wave her bat wings with abandon deserves a second look She seems like she d be a fun girlfriend and mom.


  8. Amy Amy says:

    This book is fan freakin tastic I know now what I am A formerly This is a great read for anyone 36 44 years old I laughed out loud while reading it Read this book


  9. Danielle Danielle says:

    I m only finishing it b c I m not a quitter. but uh redundant drivel update I lied I can t finish this So many other better things to do and read.


  10. Traci Traci says:

    OK, full disclosure I have never thought of myself as hot Cute, maybe even kind of pretty at times, but the word hot has never been used by myself when describing my own person So what s a not now not ever hot lady like myself doing with a book like this Laughing my bleeping butt off, that s what The territory here feels oh so familiar, as I am now in my early 40s I totally understand where Dolgoff is coming from and feel her pain at realizing that I no longer fit in the 25 35 age OK, full disclosure I have never thought of myself as hot Cute, maybe even kind of pretty at times, but the word hot has never been used by myself when describing my own person So what s a not now not ever hot lady like myself doing with a book like this Laughing my bleeping butt off, that s what The territory here feels oh so familiar, as I am now in my early 40s I totally understand where Dolgoff is coming from and feel her pain at realizing that I no longer fit in the 25 35 age category on most questionnaires Sad but true I m one of those middle aged women who certainly don t feel middle aged The only section I didn t relate too very well was the one about parenting, but that s because my husband and I are childless by choice The rest of it, though, could have been written by yours truly at times For example, I love her take on all the new gadgets on the market Like myself, she uses some of them, but isn t what you would call a tech geek , and for good reason She explains I m not fearful or dismissive of technology, even if I don t see it as the extension of self that younger people often do The problem is, I am barely able to find the time and the presence of mind to learn what I need to know to make the technology I already have do the minimal things I ask it to do, let alone explore the next generation of gizmo and all of its many features EXACTLY I finally broke down and bought a computer for home use, and yes, I have now had a cell phone for about 18 months, but I still don t fully embrace either one The computer is basic and has what I need and a lot that I don t the phone is a pay as you go not so smartphone that allows me to call my friends and send text messages I think it would let me access the Internet if I could would take the time to figure it out, but honestly, I don t care I don t need it to take pictures, compare prices on goods, or any of the other multitude of things that others use their fancy phones to do In fact, at one point before obtaining this model, I figured if I ever did buy one, it would be a Jitterbug model, the one designed for older folks The other topic she covers at length is also one I relate to quite well, the issue of body image She talks about TBMFU, also known as The Big Metabolic F ck You, the sad fact that your metabolism at some point will turn on you like a rabid dog and cause you to gain weight in places you didn t even know it was possible to gain weight And while it is frustrating to realize you can no longer eat the whole pint of Ben Jerry s without seeing it on your saddlebags post haste, you are also at that age where you realize there are bigger concerns in your life than the size of your thighs She talks here about hearing a comment at a party made about still stick thin formerly women the commenter says that they are very restrictive in their calorie intake Dolgoff later says It takes effort to not eat when you re hungry, to constantly be figuring what you can and cannot put in your mouth based on whether or not you think it ll make you fat or what you may or may not want to eat later Doing so takes up buckets of mental energy, which can be in short supply when you re already overextended, stressed out and multitasking I can attest to this myself no, I ve never been one to be severely restrictive with my food, but taking the time to be on a diet and think about food all the time is exhausting I d rather just try to cut back on all my portion sizes and eat what I want, maybe take an extra walk around the block, than do the diet thing And I know I haveimportant things to focus on in my life than my waist size or the number on the bathroom scale If you re nearing your 40s, are firmly in them, or have left them behind in the dust, I highly recommend this book It s so nice to know that there are others feeling this same way, and that we can think of ourselves as smarter, if not hotter


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